“I was looking for love in all the wrong places. Looking for love in too many faces. Searching your eyes, looking for traces, of what… I’m dreaming of… Hopin’ to find a friend and a lover, God bless the day I discover, another heart, lookin’ for love…”

You probably recognize the words from the Waylon Jennings song.  Isn’t that how many of us in this world spend our entire life? Looking for love in too many faces.

We are looking for love exactly where it is not, out there. Maybe when we lay in that crib with those doting adults hovering over us, maybe that’s when we first decided love is out there. Maybe that was when we decided to find love, to get love, to be loved, we have to get it out there. We have to get it from someone, they have to give it to us. And, if we can’t get someone to love us, we live in misery and constant wanting, looking for love in all the wrong places.

Lester Levenson made a discovery in 1952. He found, by deep and honest introspection, that when he was looking for love, when he wanted love from others, when he wanted to be loved, he was sick, and miserable and suffering. When he wanted to be loved he was living in negativity.

…love is an attitude of givingness…

Lester found that the times in his life when he was loving, he was positive, happy, healthy and wealthy.

Lester saw when we want to be loved, we are into wanting something from someone. We want them to love us so we can feel good. Lester saw that this is the opposite of love. He saw that it was non-loving to want someone to love us.

He saw that love is an attitude of givingness, of givingness to another, with no thought of receiving anything in return. Love is wanting the other person to have what they want even though we may not be able to give it to them.

Upon making this discovery, Lester set out to rid himself of, to release, all of his non-loving feelings. When he let go of all of his non-loving feelings, what was left was the all-loving infinite being that he had always been, his body was healed, his entire life was healed. Lester has shown us the way. To find love, we have to look inside and we have to release. The more we release, the more we uncover that natural, loving, infinite being that we are, always have been, always will be.

We are, right now, 100% loving, 100% positive covered up by negative feelings called AGFLAP, our wanting approval, wanting control and wanting to be safe. As long as we are into wanting, we are non-loving and we feel a lack of love. We think we can get love out there and we find more AGFLAP because Love is NOT out there. It is right here in our very own nature right now.

…to find love, we have to look inside…

We search around in all those eyes and then one day we spot someone who we “fall in love with.” We find someone just like ourselves. We find someone who wants love and we want love from them. We have what we call a relationship. We soon discover that this other person doesn’t have love to give us because they want us to give love to them. Uh oh, we don’t have love, we want the other person to give us love. So, we have two people, both of which want love from the other one and each not having it to give to another.

Is it any wonder we have such a high rate of divorce, so many family problems, so much anger and frustration? We are looking for love in all the wrong places.

We do not have to go anywhere to find all the love in the universe. All we have to do is open up to the all-loving being that we really are. To do that, we do what Lester did. We sit down and we begin to let go of our non-loving feelings; the first one of which is wanting to be loved, wanting approval. We look inside and we release all those negative, wanting, non-loving—disapproval—feelings. And, as we do, we find we are becoming more loving—actually, we are not really becoming more loving—we are just opening up to the natural all-loving being that we are, always have been, always will be.

That is what we do when we Release. When we Release, we are letting go of all that we are not, the non-loving being that we are not. We are letting go of negativity. For each unit of Negativity we release we open ourselves up more to the positive, loving being that we are. And by and by we discover, we do not need anything, we ARE love and we are the All. It is only when we turn away from that, when we forget, and we think love is somewhere out there and we have to go and find it, that we move into desire and thus become miserable and suffering.

So, we have to wake up. It isn’t easy because we have had a habit for a long, long time of chasing love where it isn’t. We have had a habit for a long time of looking for love out there. We wake up, we release and release and release and we see, there is nothing to do, there is nowhere to go, all the love in the universe is right here, right where we are. We are that right now.

Make a decision in favor of being happy all the time.

Make a decision to release and realize the All-Loving being that each of us are. And, as Lester tells us, just love, love, love and we will have everything.

Go ahead, admit it. You like to look at what’s wrong, don’t you? It’s okay. Admit it. Self honesty is a good thing and helps you get on track.

Actually, it’s not you that like to look at what’s wrong. It’s your mind that likes to look at what’s wrong and you’re unconsciously going along with that mind of yours.

You don’t see it happening because you’re living unconscious to what your mind is telling you to do. You’re living on automatic, meaning you react automatically to whatever happens.

Let’s get really direct about this. You are living your life according to the dictates of your mind. Let’s say it even more clearly. Your mind is telling you how to live your life.

And, your mind is negative. Your mind is always looking for what’s wrong.

You’re looking for what’s wrong and you’re finding plenty of wrong to look at. Looking for what’s wrong is a way your mind keeps you negative.

The economy, the money news, are a couple of things your mind wants you to focus on right now. Your mind wants you to get nervous, scared, and fret over the economy or money news. Things may be fine for you, but your mind wants you to look at what’s going wrong, to focus on all the negative media. For those who do have financial concerns, your mind wants you to look at the trouble, at what’s wrong, which does not help you in any way to find a solution or a way out.

Positive begets Positive

Another favorite of your mind is your body. Your mind is very occupied paying attention to your body, isn’t it? And, it hardly ever likes what it sees, does it? Too fat, too thin, this mark, that mark, not enough of this, too much of that, hair is not so good, teeth not white enough, teeth too white, a new wrinkle never noticed before, this or that sag, oh, and we don’t even want to talk about what your mind says about your stomach. Your mind likes to occupy you looking at what’s wrong with your body.

Your mind likes you to look at what’s wrong with your job, your finances. Looking at what’s wrong is all about coulda, shoulda, woulda. Looking at what’s wrong is all about comparing, com paring yourself to others, comparing yourself to where your mind is telling you that you “should” be if you would have done this or that.

Your mind likes you to look at what’s wrong with others. It’s easy to see what that does to your relationships. Looking at what’s wrong is a long-time negative habit of your mind that keeps you negative and unhappy. Looking at what’s wrong, is looking at what you don’t have rather than what you have. Looking at what’s wrong is going in the opposite direction of gratitude. Looking at what’s wrong is ingratitude.

Looking at what’s wrong is in the opposite direction of love, of being loving. Looking at what’s wrong is looking at, “I don’t like it.” Not liking it is, non-loving. Non-loving is negative. And, negative begets negative. The more negative you are, the more negative you see, the more negative you collect. Negative is low energy. Negative is opposite of happiness.

By now you see what you must do.

Everyone is looking for the same thing in life. Everyone is looking for happiness. To get happy, to get all the happiness you can, you must start seeing what’s right. To start seeing what’s right, start looking for it. If you start looking for it, you’ll start seeing it. One way to begin looking at what’s right is to catch yourself in the act of looking at what’s wrong. Catch yourself and stop right in your tracks.

In the Release Technique you learn life is a decision. You learn that you decide. I am going to be positive. I am going to be negative. You decide. You learn that you decide moment to moment. You decide, you are going to look at what’s right, what you have, rather than what’s wrong, what your mind is telling you, you don’t have.

When you start looking for what’s right, you start seeing more that’s right in your world. Your mind will want to fight you on it. Your mind wants to keep you negative. You decide. You decide you’re not going along with your mind. You’re looking for what’s right in your life, in your day, what’s right with your body, your health, what’s right with your pocketbook, what’s right with the people in your life.

When you look for what’s right, you see it. The more you look for it, the more you see it. The more you look for what you like, the more you have to like in your life.

It’s simple, positive begets positive. When you turn positive, your life turns positive, your finances turn positive, your body, your health turns positive, your relationships turn positive. It begins with looking for what’s right all day long.

For a lifetime, you have looked at what’s wrong. You have built up a lot of negativity, a lifetime of negativity. It’s possible to turn that all around. Looking at what’s right, you say, OK, I see what I’ve been doing. The good thing is I’m seeing it. What’s right is that I see what I’ve been doing to myself, accumulating all this negativity by looking at what’s wrong. From this day forward I’m making a decision to look at what’s right. I’m going to ignore my mind telling me to look at what’s wrong just as for so many years I’ve ignored what’s right. I’m now ignoring what my mind says is wrong and I’m looking at what’s right.

The Release Technique is about ridding yourself of your accumulated negativity. Your accumulated negativity has dragged you down and kept you down. The Release Technique gives you the tools, the skills needed to drop all of this accumulated negativity.

Changing lifetime habits, such as looking at what’s wrong, is absolutely mandatory for you to be happy. Changing lifetime negative habits is mandatory for you to have all the health, all the money, all the loving connections with the people in your life.

The Release Technique gives you the tools to locate this negativity and get rid of it permanently. The Release Technique is not about building up fake feelings of being happy with a pep rally or a motivational speech. You feel happy briefly then you go back to the negative habit of feeling bad, of feeling unhappy, of looking at what’s wrong.

The Release Technique is about getting rid of the negative and getting in touch with the positive that you naturally are before you began to accumulate all the negative. The Release Technique is about ridding your self of your mental viruses that have been causing your mental computer to malfunction. The Release Technique is about permanent change, permanent happiness because it is about permanently getting rid of all those negative feelings you’re carrying around that are running your life.

The Release Technique gives you the tools to always see what is right, to always see what you have, to live in gratitude, to see that you are naturally all happy, all loving.

Go to www.releasetechnique.com and get started today seeing all that is right in your life by letting go of all that is wrong.

Why wait? Do it now.

Which one are you?

When you break it right down, there are really only TWO types of people in the world.

1.      There are people who WANT things.

• This group makes up 99% of the population.
• These people go through life, mostly striving and working hard, but sadly never really getting all that they want.

2.      And there are people who CHOOSE TO HAVE things.

• This group amounts to only 1% of the population.
• Yet, this group are made up of the super-achievers. They seem to waltz through life with Lady Luck on their arm.

On the surface WANTING something and CHOOSING TO HAVE something appear very similar. But beneath the surface the “undercurrent of energy” is completely different.

You can experience this right now for yourself.

Pick something you want. Anything.

Let’s just say, for example, it’s more money. FEEL how much you WANT it. Really get in touch with those sensations of wanting it. Dwell in that wanting for a minute or so.

Done? Good.

Now put that wanting aside for this moment. And, in its place, state to yourself that you CHOOSE TO HAVE more money. Doesn’t matter ifyou don’t know where that money is likely to come from.

Just say to yourself: “I choose to have more money.” And notice the energy associated with that. Just dwell in that energy of choosing to have more money.

Notice the difference?

Just stating to yourself that you CHOOSE TO HAVE it creates an immediate shift in your feeling response (your energy) to it.

That’s good. Because it’s experimental proof that you’ve made a definite decision. And just getting clear on what you choose to have has, in and of itself, a greater feel of possibility to it.

Now, let’s go further with this.

I recommend you write down what you choose to have on a piece of paper. So, in this example, you’d write: “I choose to have more money.” Better still, it would be more specific, as in: “I choose to have an extra $500.”

Then, underneath that, write this question (and internalize it): “What seems to be getting in the way of having that goal?”

What then? Simple: Just start listing the beliefs/thoughts and feelings (all the perceived limitations) that stand in the way of you having what you choose right now in this moment and let go of wanting approval, wanting control and wanting to be safe. This way you’re making conscious what have probably been, until now, unconscious blocks to you having what you previously WANTED.

Now, what you “do” is so simple there’s really no doing-ness involved in it. You simply read over the limitations on your list (one by one) and simply WELCOME THE SPACE in which each limitation (be it a thought, belief or feeling) is able to exist. In other words, put your awareness on the SPACE in which each perceived limitation exists—rather than on trying to get rid of the limitation itself.

By being willing to be aware of the SPACE (which is infinite) in which the limitation (which is finite and fleeting) appears to exist—the limiting sensation (which is really only energy) will release all by itself (which is seeing beyond the problem). As effortlessly as you exhale your breath.

Prove it to yourself. And you will experience greater certitude around the thing you choose to have. See, you really don’t have to make anything happen or even manifest what you choose to have—instead, all you have to do ALLOW “SPACE” for it to show up in your life.

To recap:

First, switch from WANTING (which has a lacking energy to it) to CHOOSING TO HAVE (which has an acceptance energy to it).

Second, allow all limitations that seem to be in the way the SPACE to release and dissolve all by themselves. Then notice the certitude energy around what you choose to have. And watch how your life unfolds in such a way that the thing you choose to have shows up.

Release and repeat!

When we have a situation, a trouble, or a problem we can’t resolve, the very first thing we do habitually is, we ask our mind for a solution. Our mind is a recording and playing back unit. If our mind knows, we don’t have to ask. The answer is recorded and automatically pops up. The information comes up instantly. If we need to ask our mind, we already know our mind doesn’t have the answer.

Silly isn’t it? We continually ask our mind, when we know our mind doesn’t have the answer? Go into that empty file cabinet. There isn’t an answer in there to solve our problem or situation. Not getting an answer, we already knew wasn’t there, we go into beating ourselves up. We disapprove of ourselves. What an idiot I am. How could I be so dumb? Shame on me.

Then, we ask our mind again. The entire cycle repeats itself over and over ad infinitum. Yes, ad infinitum, because we never let go of asking our mind and beating ourselves up, all the days and years of our lives.

It’s called worry. That’s its name, worry. Let’s see what Roget’s Thesaurus says are synonyms for worry. Here goes: Anxiety, mental anguish, uneasiness, fear, apprehension, concern, plague, disturb, vex, fret, upset, torture, torment, trouble. If we need more, Roget’s suggests we look up the words pain and torment. But, we get the idea, don’t we? Worry is worrying. It’s very negative. A very negative habit. It steals our peace of mind.

And, yet, we do it. We do it because we’re on automatic. When we’re on automatic we’re not discriminating, meaning we don’t see what’s going on. We don’t see how we’re hurting ourselves. We don’t see the damage we’re doing to ourselves. We’re on automatic and operating from AGFLAP when we worry.

Has worry ever helped us or solved anything?

A discriminating question is, where did we ever get the idea worry ever helped us or solved anything? Our mind tricked us on that one. Somehow we accepted the impression from our mind that we could solve a problem or fix a situation by worrying about it.

Let’s use one of those synonyms. We torture ourselves over a situation or problem often endlessly and yet, we never find a solution. We cannot. Our mind does not know. We beat ourselves up. We get further and further away from a solution. We get more and more agitated. We get more and more negative. We get less and less positive, less and less happy, less and less healthy, less and less abundant. And, we never, ever, get a real, effective answer, an answer that works.

Oh, our mind will give us answers alright. Contact some other egos and chew over the issue with their minds.  By the way, they’re secretly happy over our problem and equally have the same amount of solution, namely none.  Worried minds ask worried minds and all that comes out of it is more worry. In fact, when we worry we’re holding the problem in mind, therefore supporting and strengthening the problem. We’re telling our creative mind to give us more of it.

Our minds give us many answers. Take a drink, see the doctor, get a prescription drug, eat a big plate of food, take a nap, take a vacation, watch some mindless tv, chat endlessly about our problem. But there never is a real solution. However, there is more beating ourselves up, disapproving of ourselves and getting more and more negative.

Our mind does not have the answer. Our mind does not have the solution. Isn’t it time to stop asking it? Isn’t it time to stop worrying? It’s time. From this day forward, from this moment forward, let’s resolve, let’s discriminate. Let’s notice we’re worrying, we’re asking our mind and we aren’t getting anywhere. Let’s resolve from this moment to make a decision. No more worrying. It doesn’t work! No more worrying, it doesn’t help us. No more worrying. Worry isn’t the way to get solutions that will make us happy and positive.

Getting happy is just a decision. It begins by seeing what we’re doing to ourselves and ending it. Letting it go. Wringing our hands is not the answer. Releasing is the answer. We let go of asking our mind. We let go of beating ourselves up. We let go of disapproving of ourselves. We apply love. We apply love to ourselves. We give ourselves approval, not for just a second, not for just a minute, maybe for an entire hour, maybe for an entire day, maybe for the rest of our lives. We love ourselves.

Getting Happy is Just a Decision

We apply love. We love our problem. The negative didn’t work, did it? Why not try something positive? We apply love to the problem, or situation, or person. We send approval. We keep on sending approval. And, we watch what happens.

For one thing, we aren’t agitated like we were when we worried. We aren’t anxious and disturbed. We have moved up to the high energies of courageousness, acceptance and peace. We apply love. We send approval. We bathe our problem or concern with positive energy. Can’t you feel it already, just as you read these words? The problem resolves! How can it be anything else? The negative, a problem, cannot exist in the positive energy of love. It dissolves, resolves, and the picture changes.

So, why don’t we do it? Be sure of one thing. Our mind does not want us to deal with so-called problems by applying love. Our mind knows, if we apply love, we’ll see that troubles and problems are only a mind-created illusion. They’re not real. They only seem real when energized by negativity. Our mind knows, when we apply love, there are no problems because negativity cannot exist in the positive energy of love. So, why don’t we do it? Why don’t we break the habit of asking the mind, of beating ourselves up? It’s just a decision.

I can be positive and love myself or I can beat myself up. It’s just a decision. And upon that decision rests our happiness or our ruin. We must get bigger than that mind of ours and make a decision in favor of being all loving all the time. It isn’t a fairy tale. If we decide to be all loving all the time, we can live happily, healthily, and wealthily ever after. Get bigger than the mind. Decide to face problems and issues by applying love. Try it! It works!

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• Avoid dealing with person or situation that feels challenged
• Complain about challenges
• Try to figure out what to do or not do about current challenges that you are experiencing
• Use methods similar to parents, family members, friends or colleagues
• Become agitated because of challenges that sometimes seem endless

Perhaps you might agree that none of the above suggestions are effective in facing or resolving conflicts or challenges.  Realistically any time we allow challenges or conflicts to distract us, we are facing an inner conflict and also feeling uncomfortable.  Most of the time, we don’t realize that when we are acting in a deconstructive manner or focusing on negative realities, that we are adding negativity to an already negative situation.  In other words, we are making the situation worse.

If we were to look at negative challenges in a more positive way, what we perceive as challenging can begin to shift more to our liking.  Truthfully, if unfavorable situations were viewed by us as an opportunity for improvement it would help us create better outcomes much more quickly.  Unfortunately it appears that very few people look at challenges in a good way.  By focusing on what can be improved, versus as to what is wrong, offers us an advantage to learn to do things in a different way.

Challenges offer each of us a means of stepping out of our somewhat rigid comfort zone.  By changing what we are holding in mind (in relation to negative or challenging circumstances), allows us to step back and evaluate processes and technologies more constructively.  Negative situations are only negative and challenging if that’s what we are focused on.  Challenges actually give us a chance to view things with a more thoughtful approach.  For instance, say we would like to go back to school, earn a degree, or participate in getting some additional training.  All of these options do present some challenges.  A realistic approach might be to look at things like time, budget, or letting go of some of our current projects.  Each consideration also offers us a tremendous sense of accomplishment by accepting responsibility and choosing to complete any of these projects.  And yet if we were looking to buy a home or relocate, change jobs, or were considering having children definitely requires that we consider even more considerations.

Anytime, we focus on “What is good about moving forward” that is what we would be creating for ourselves.  Certainly there is a time element and cost association with every project which needs to be reviewed among other considerations.  So there are many aspects of consideration whenever we are looking at moving forward.  There will also be considerations that will vary from project to project and from person to person.  So the phrase “One size fits all” isn’t really realistic.  And if we are working on projects in a teamed environment, each person involved may have different considerations which need to be reviewed in order to add to the overall success of the project.

Notice when we are looking at things more realistically, and also optimistically, that we feel enthusiastic and encouraged to proceed.  In this way, the challenge becomes an opportunity.  And when we are in dislike or disagreement of a situation, we label it challenging or disturbing.  In each moment we are making decisions.  We are either challenging ourselves positively or negatively.  If we are focusing on a positive outcome, the project will continue.  Our attitude will be reflective on succeeding and completion of the project.  And if we are focused on seeing the project as difficult, challenging, or stuck, will consciously or subconsciously create challenges to support negative aspects associated with our thinking.  Negative situations remain stuck mostly because of factors related to fear.  We may offer excuses to our self or to others.  We may be plagued with guilt, regret or remorse.  We may also choose to avoid working on the project altogether. Clearly own thoughts of limitation cause us to feel uncomfortable and challenged.  This is a very awkward way to live.

When we are complaining or resisting we are participating in a negative way.  When we are uncomfortable and really don’t want to do something, or feel that we have to go to extremes to be right, no one wins.  In order to face challenges more effectively, simply requires that we make better decisions.  This option provides us with the most important step available to us.  We all have the ability to make better decisions.  First we need to move up into higher energies which include courageousness, acceptance and peace.  Then we need to decide we are going to have a positive resolution with respect to whatever area of our life that we are struggling to settle.  Decide today to do something different and positive that helps you to overcome being stuck.  The moment we fully decide to shift our viewpoint from negative to positive, negative realities begin to change.  Change your point of view from “I can’t” to “I can!”