Archive for August, 2012

What is the biggest obstacle that keeps us from accomplishing our goals?

Tweet If we asked ourselves what is keeping me from accomplishing my goals, we would immediately see a few things in the way.  We may instantly see or sense fear or resistance.  Another factor may include believing, “I can’t!”  By holding onto fear and resistance, or having beliefs stating I can’t, will definitely prevent us from accomplishing our goals.  For every “I can’t!” belief that we are holding onto, you can be certain there is also an equal amount of beliefs stating “I won’t!”  The phrases “I can’t” and “I won’t” are obstacles that will remain in place unless we …

DIY: Self-Improvement 101

Tweet When most people think of DIY, they conjure up projects that are either crafty or perhaps an outlet for personal talents.  Most people really don’t usually consider self-improvement as a DIY project.  And realistically, that’s exactly what self-improvement is all about.  When we look at situations within our lives and decide we would like to make improvements within some of these areas, we often look to many different sources.  With the popularity of internet searches there are literally thousands of choices to consider in relation to every area of our lives.  There are options for relationships, parenting, finances, weight …

What is change? And why are we so afraid of making changes? – Part II

Tweet Change is only for the purpose of making better decisions that agrees with what we are interested in doing or having, or not doing or not having.  If we look at the process of change more closely, logically we can see that some changes require more time and consideration.  Certainly things like planning to relocate, changing jobs or career path, or continuing education requires time and thoughtfulness to accomplish any of these elections.  However, if the changes we would like to make aren’t initiated within a reasonable time, it maybe because we are allowing fear to intimidate us.  Fear …

What is change? And why are we so afraid of making changes? – Part I

Tweet In reality the process of “changing” is simply making a decision to do something other than what we are currently doing.  Change is a reflection of current attitudes.  Sometimes we choose to make changes that are relatively simple like deciding where to eat or what to order.  Surely deciding where to go to lunch is a fairly simple process; although it can be cumbersome if 14 people are included in the decision process.   Perhaps if we are dining alone, or happen to be in an unfamiliar area, we may also be inclined to ask for recommendations.  So looking at …

If we aren’t achieving our goals, maybe we need a different approach

Tweet When we aren’t getting our intentions or achieving our goals, we need to accept that there are limitations and excuses in the way.  At times when we aren’t achieving our goals isn’t meant for us to veer off course and assume the method doesn’t work.  What doesn’t work is moving into frustration, blame, disapproval or other negative emotions.  If we are consistently not achieving our goals, it’s for one reason only.  The reason is, we WANT the goal (the thing or experience) more than we want to take responsibility for our feelings.  Hopefully you can see that when we …